Go Cold Turkey-- How To Get Your Baby Back

Did your "other-half" cheat and run? Chances are, you CAN get them back. Now how long it takes is completely up to you. If you are truly ready to get their attention focused back where it should be, then you have the formula for success on this page, COMPLETELY FREE. Here's the problem though--you have to be strong enough to go through with this. Many people fail because they give-in too soon, and because they have doubts. You must just tell yourself the Nike catchphrase: Just Do It. Stop worrying about whether or not it will work. I can assure this one thing...It wont hurt your chances. It will work. It will work.

WHY? Because all people are narcissistic. The human psyche is very predictable.

The Fear of Loss is Greater Than the Desire for Gain.

I have been living happily ever since I encountered the fiasco of my almost-divorce. I never once stopped to think about listing the resources I used to repaint the canvas of mine and my husband's relationship.

For the past month I have been witness to the unraveling of a close friend's 5 year commitment to his girlfriend.

My personal tragedy was extreme and very traumatizing in relation to many, but the true severity of the pain one feels is not to be measured or compared by me. So I looked around online to help him understand the steps I have so insistently laid upon him, and found that most of the supposed 'techniques' are compiled in ebooks labelled as magic cures, and priced somewhere between 2-45 bucks. Well, that is ridiculous---since they all claim to be different, and they all preach the exact same steps. Absolutely ridiculous. Dont waste your money.

After talking to friends and family, reading books, or just googling the topic online--anyone going through a break-up will eventually find the same info from all outlets. So why not just stop second guessing everyone and get on with it??

The facts:

No Situation is Impossible

No One is Immune

There are No Guarantees

No One Believes The Steps Until They Take Them

Everyone Tries To Find Another Way--But there isn't one.

The resources I used are the ones I recommend, though there are other options out there.

The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7 Step Program For Saving Your Marriage (Michele Weiner Davis)
This book also works seamlessly for boyfriend/girlfriend break-ups--not just marriage problems.
Tells you the steps, helps you trust the system, tells you what to say, how to act, etc.
Also helps you understand feelings, and ways to cope afterward.
You can buy this book at most book stores, and online for around $10. Its well worth it, believe me!

The Art of Seduction (Robert Greene)
This book explains seductive manipulation techniques used by the greatest lovers in history. Basically its a great escape, and helps you successfully implement seduction into your plan. I used it to keep myself busy. The most helpful section is the chapter on "The Art of Insinuation".

after the reconciliation...

Stumbling on Happiness (Daniel Gilbert)
This is NOT a self-help book.
This book is fascinating. It is ideal for Self-Maintenance. It is written by a brilliant man, and is so easy to read that you will fly through the pages...and once you're done--you will definitely recommend this one to friends and family. It will blow your mind, and change the way you see yourself and the decisions you make.

In a nutshell, the thing you must do to stop a break-up, divorce, or to win back your lover:
You must go Cold Turkey on the relationship.

Cut them off like a bad drug habit. That is, if you want them back. If you dont--GOOD FOR YOU...you are stronger than most.
The most important step is the hardest, and the first thing you must do. It is most likely the number one mistake you are making right now.

1. This is the most important step: Stop all communication immediately. Chain yourself down if you must. Throw out you cell phone. Block them from your Myspace and Facebook. Dont call their family or friends. IT FEELS IMPOSSIBLE AND WRONG BUT YOU MUST DO IT. The entire process will fail if you cannot control yourself on this matter.

I did not start this blog to list the steps. Only the most important one. I wrote this to put emphasis on the most impossible thing you are going to have to do to fix the break-up. You see, the thing none of those ebooks tell you is that you will have doubts. You will constantly over-analyze the system and second guess yourself. Many people worry that the Cold Turkey aspect will drive the other person away. It absolutely will not. In fact, the ignored person will most likely become so obnoxiously desperate that it will make you sick with happiness. Ignoring someone who expects you to chase after them is the ultimate bitch-slap in the face.

Feel free to ask anything and I will fill you in.

Best Wishes and Good Luck to You!!!

Bama vs. LSU-- Roll Tide!!

27-21 Alabama...Rashad was player of the game, and I am loving Julio Jones more and more with each game. JPW made some awesome plays, too. Here's the scoop from ESPN: (though I would not call it an "escape") http://scores.espn.go.com/ncf/boxscore?gameId=283130099

Now that was a fantastic game! Bama pulled through and kept their undefeated no. 1 ranking! I am so ecstatic that all i can say is "ROLL TIDE ROLL!!!"

Alabama No. 1

Its looking like the Crimson Tide will be #1 on the BCS after Texas' defeat tonight by Texas Tech.

Ive heard rumors that AP-pollers would be more inclined to vote the Red Raiders up to #1 had they accomplished more of a slaughter. Apparently winning by less than 2 tds just isn't good enough.

We will see soon.

Good job, guys!

Prince of Persia Movie Posters

JOHNNY DEPP to play Mad Hatter in Tim Burton's "Alice in Wonderland"

Johnny Depp and Disney announced at the Walt Disney Studios Showcase in Hollywood, that he will play the Mad Hatter in Tim Burton’s Alice In Wonderland...Depp also agreed to reprise his role as Captain Jack Sparrow in a fourth Pirates of the Caribbean film.

-JustJared.com

How radical is that~? Johnny always blows me away.

It seems evertime Burton does a new film he calls Johnny up and says, "Im
doing this new film...who do you wanna be?" To which Johnny replies, "The
crazy one."

Hehehehe.

POP Picks

1. Sendhil Ramamurthy:

• I do watch Heroes fanatically, but I chose Sendhil to audition for Prince Dastan because of his authentic looks and his voice. Anyone who has played the games knows the Prince has a unique and soothing voice.

Prince of Persia Movie

THE PRINCE OF PERSIA: SANDS OF TIME movie is reportedly in production now in Morrocco. Release has been pushed to 2010. Still that is better than 2020. :)

I have been waiting for this for years...dredding any small mistakes that will cause this awesome story to fail. Too many video-game-movies tossed about in Hollywood eventually end up falling into the wrong hands. Thankfully the one i have long dreamed about for the big screen has caught the attention of Hollwood and has made its way into the right hands. Those hands belong to Jerry Bruckheimer (Pirates Trilogy, etc.). I am excited! Especially after seeing the leaked set pics. The set looks like it will be intricate and gorgeous--pretty much spot-on with the game.

I have mentioned that I had a few people in mind for the leading role...the one Jake Gyllenhaal landed...and even though I am glad someone I really like got the role I figure I will still post those I thought of as accurate for the leading man. Pics are from JustJared.com

OH YEAH... I have yet to mention what I think of Gemma Arterton being the female lead simply because I dont think much of it. I find it odd that she is white (just as i have Dastan being Jake, but mostly I am annoyed that they have already scrapped the original character's name. I am not sure why they have done this but i sincerely hope that is all they have changed about the wonderful little firecracker known originally as "Farah". She is now called, "Tamina". Hmmpf.

Prince of Persia: Gyllenhaal

Jake Gyllenhaal has been cast as the Prince of Persia. I am more than a little surprised at this for a number of reasons. Having declared my surprise let me say this... I am a rather HUGE Jake Gyllenhaal fan--and am always psyched about seeing him in absolutely anything.

On the other hand, I am kind of wary of the casting of this film. Firstly because of the apparent nationality of the characters. I have played all three of the Prince of Persia games up, down, and sideways, since I discovered them years ago. In fact I got a PS2 primarily to play this game since all i had at the time was a Nintendo Gamecube. (With the PS2 were added bonuses like the GTA series and a much advanced selection of grown-up games to enjoy.) I have a unique love for the story behind the Prince because I am, in fact, female therefore i digg the romanticism. The games are fantastic because of the story development, the incredible scenery (graphics) and cinematography, and the era. The combat is killer and all but many games offer this now (even though POP hails as the first that i recall with such an intereactive gameplay and puzzle theme).

Anyway--Jake is not what i expected. I figured the casting director would choose someone of a specific nationality for this role--or at least someone who appeared to be of the correct "make and model". Prince is quite obviously not a white guy. Either way, though, I do believe Jake can pull it off. They must've needed him for hot-factor and namesake. Here is a pic of Jake as the prince .

The Differences in the Winds

Every three months or so, the world transforms right before my eyes. The change in setting brings about a certain level of hope that things will he headed for the better, in all aspects of life. These transformations are msot beautiful in the spring and the fall. Spring and fall have separate moods that brings out different sides of the Earth. These two seasons influence everyone and everything in their paths.

As one may see, our environment changes in many ways during the sping and fall. Spring is always refreshing and new. The Earth wakes from the winter cold, and begins to look, feel and smell healthy. The grass and trees become full and green, like sparkling emerald gems on the horizon. Bradford Pears bloom pale pink and white. The dogwoods small delicate flowers float around in a gentle breeze. Animals are coaxed from their shelters to rush about and play in the warm beaming sunshine. On the other hand, fall is enveloping and romantic. The Earth cools down, and the gentle breeze becomes cold gusts of wind. The leaves on trees melt into brilliant reds, oranges, yellows, and purples. They tumble about in the cold wind, crushing beneath the feet of people shuffling across concrete sidewalks, exposing the sharp crooked branches that held them in spring and summer. All of the little creatures begin to tire out and prepare for the coming winter. The landscapes of spring rejuvenate people's spirits, while the landscapes of fall enchant them.

As a result people, too, change during the seasons. There is a distinct difference in any person's mood depending on the time of year. THe energy in the spring air causes people to become more active and think more positively. SPring is lively and joyful. Spring affords us a beautifully set stage to venture out and enjoy life. We celebrate our holidays with colored eggs, fireworks shows, and wild vacations. Many find themselves craving the unique companionship common of a body of water. Therefore the masses migrate torwards lakes and beaches to ski, boat, swim, sail, and surf. People tend to buy their pets in the spring, take their children to the playground, and spend their weekends at the local campground. People also wear different clothing in the spring such as sandals, shorts, and sun dresses. People enjoy more independant activities such as frolicing around tending to their gardens and falling asleep in their hammocks while reading a book on a lazy spring day. Fall has a dramatically different effect on people. The activities become more family oriented. People migrate indoors to appreciate their families; celebrating their holidays with little colored lights strung up on the rooftops and around all shrubbery and bare branches. Fall attire is different from spring-wear, because as the winds become chilled, people crave the protection from the elements offered by a luxuriously plush sweater. People regularly don items such as big comfy jackets, thick socks, and sharp leather boots.

There is a wonderful relief that comes along with the differences given to us by these two seasons. They are gateway seasons that immediately raise up our hopes and relieve us of elemental stress factors. Spring brings relief from the blistering cold of winter. As the ground begins to thaw, people always find themselves feeling ecstatic because they no longer need to wear the layers of clothing and sharp leather boots of winter and fall--or stay inside on sunny days. We can all bask about in the glory of our new world. Absent the messes created y being cooped up inside eating handsomely decorated cookies left over from filling meals. Finally we are free! Oppositely, fall brings relief from the scorching summer sun and the painful sunburns associated with it. No more sweaty-day pony-tails or fake tanners to stay ahead on the fashion scene. No more mosquitos to nag us while we try to enjoy the muggy summer evenings on our porches suffocated by the unique choking smell of citronella torches. Finally! We are exhausted. We are quick to surrender to the cozy fireside sofa with our marshmallow securely stabbed by a long flimsy stick.

The thick line between summer and spring is obvious. The twain seasons are the barrier seasons soothing us as we tire from the harsher times of year--summer and winter. Some people appreciate one season over the other, but all of humankind has distinct adoration for them both.

Poor Boy

Is one's lot in life determined by factors of chance coming into play to create fame and fortune, or is one's destiny shaped by their education, ability to reason, and ability to intelligently relate to others? Pieces of the answers lie in the life circumstances of a young man named Rusty. He grew up an unwanted child. He was passed from family member to family member until his grandmother died and he was delivered into the hand of Childhaven. Childhaven is the orphanage from which he fled at the age of about thirteen. He was given very little guidance, and even though he has caushgt breaks in his life he has always had a tendancy to fail.

Trouble began somewhere in between the lines as our educational system failed poor Rusty. He is now a twenty-one year old ex-felon who cannot spell even the simplest of words, that is other than "Correctional Facility". This inability to spell and write alone, without taking into consideration, any further lack of knowledge, has impaired him from being able to obtain a job requiring anything more than the repetition of a menial task. As one may have guessed, when Rusty went to apply for a job at a temporary agency with a friend, whose education was superior, the friend received the better paying job while Rusty left with the lower-income laborers. He was mystified as to why, yet assuming it to be his "BAD LUCK". Rusty's position was created not by chance, but by a heartbreaking lack of educational resources to draw upon.

At the same time, Rusty's poor ability to reason has created chaos. When Rusty left prison he found that he had inherited $8600 from his long-deceased father's estate payable on his twenty-first birthday. Was it chance that within a month the money was squandered with nothing to show for it? After cashing his check, Rusty had stopped at the very first gas station and bought the very first car he saw without so much as a test drive. He then opened a bank account, telling all of his "friends" of his good fortune, but without proper reasoning he left his checkbook where it could be very easily stolen. Likewise, Rusty cheated on the only person who ever truly loved him. He was discovered in his love's own home, naked, running from the bedroom with his brainless, dimwitted equal, both exclaiming their innocence. Now Rusty is penniless with a broken-down, impounded car, and no one to love him. These events are definitely the result of less than brilliant reasoning (less than average even), not the hands-of-fate.

In view of that, Rusty relates to others the best way he knows how. In his attempt to create self-esteem he has boisterously clamored for his little accomplishments to be viewed as the children of some "greater knowledge". He declared that he graduated college, but of course the truth is that he merely attempted to complete a horticulture class while in prison. These very detectable fallacies only cause others to ridicule him, and stay as far away from him as possible. Rusty is a joke to all of his acquaintances not by chance, but by his inability to intelligently relate to others.

Does anyone ever ponder the possibility that our over-all education of people and the world can weigh so heavily on our levels of happiness and satisfaction? As you see, Rusty has no hopes for a skillful or easy job. He has no true friends. He has no love. He has but a sliver of the world he dreamed of for himself as a child. In Rusty's downfall, chance did not hit him like a Mack truck head-on. Rather, his lack of education, incapacity to reason, and inability to relate to others has painstakingly taken years to mellow into his psyche, and influenced his world, his dreams, and all that he could have potentially become...possibly forever.